Emotions are a fundamental part of being human. Anger. Jealousy. Joy. Sadness. Grief. Contentment. Love. All of these emotions help you respond and interact with life and living. They impact how you think and behave.
To understand and appreciate the importance of emotional self-care you need to think about what life is like when you neglect your emotional health.
Emotional self-neglect will often result in you being held captive by your emotions.
Two weeks ago, we started a journey of looking at three essentials of a heathy team. The first two were respect and honesty. Today we look at the final principle: humility.
Ego-driven anything does not work well or last long. When egos within a team are competing for power and recognition, the team is unhealthy and unable to accomplish much. Such a team is comprised of persons looking out for their own interests.
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein
“It’s not uncommon to be afraid of making mistakes. We all make mistakes and sometimes the consequences are very unpleasant. That’s why we tend to avoid doing things that can make us fail.” SelfGrowth.com
Most of us fear making mistakes. And when we do make a mistake we often try to rationalize it. In reality, mistakes are a part of life. Therefore, we should not live our lives in fear of making mistakes; rather we should learn from them or we run the risk of repeating them. I know this is not easy. Society often encourages us to be flawless, if only in appearance. However, we will make mistakes and hopefully we can learn from them.
Recycling is a routine way of handling millions of tons of trash produced daily in this country, where the recycling rate continues to grow.
Did you know that God is the originator of recycling? Oh yes, He is and has always been in the business of recycling our pain.
Let’s consider the parallels between the process we go through to recycle our garbage and how God recycles pain.
- Your plane is delayed.
- The person driving is front of you is being a jerk.
- The cashier is casually conversing with the person in the line ahead of you and you are already running late for your doctor’s appointment.
- You planned your daughter’s birthday party in the park with lots of activities only to arrive at the park and find that someone else is occupying the place you reserved.
These are only a few of the types of things we experience on a regular basis. And if you are having a really good day, all of the above could be happening that day!
The reality is that many of us allow incidents such as these to ruin our day – and possibly the day of those closest to us.
“We don’t usually remember what people said or what they did – however we do remember how they make us feel.” – Maya Angelou
I recall while growing up I was often mindful of how the people around me made me feel. This was particularly true with adults. When some were around I felt safe and protected, while with others I felt vulnerable and afraid.
Leaders lead from their experience and knowledge, which makes leadership both an art and a science. Many leaders are excellent with the science of leadership. They are familiar with the latest trends, models and research in leadership. They also know how to teach the science of leadership. However, where they often struggle is in the art of leadership.
The art of leadership is the part that is shaped and influenced by experience. One aspect of the experience that influences leadership is the wounds the leader has experienced in life.
We all have been wounded in life and will be again as long as we are in relationships. Whether or not we are aware of it or admit it, those wounds will influence how we relate to others.
Without a doubt we live in a fast paced, crazy-busy world today. So how do you slow down from crazy to casual?
The word casual is rarely used to describe life – except for how we dress. Occasionally, my wife will invite me to attend a work-related function with her and I will ask how I should dress; the reply usually comes back, “casual.”
In Mark 7:21-22 Jesus warns us of what comes from the heart; things such as evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance, and folly. You don’t have to work at these things; they come naturally to the human heart.
Take a child for instance; you don’t have to teach a child to be selfish, say no or throw a tantrum. You do not have to teach the child to hit, scream or get in a fight with another child. Rather, you find parents trying to teach their children how to be nice, caring, sharing and controlling their temper.
I recall too many times of hustling through the airport, bobbing and weaving through the crowd pulling my carry-on baggage behind me.
Every so often I would have to stop and adjust my baggage because the smaller piece on top fell off and was dangling off the side of the larger piece making it difficult to keep moving forward.
When the baggage gets in the way, two things happen.
- It impedes my progress.
- When I stop to fix it, I get in the way of the people around me.
I find this experience similar to what we experience in life.