In the story of the rich young ruler, Jesus tells him to go and sell everything, give the money to the poor, and follow Him. The young man left very sad because his riches meant more to him than following Jesus.

Jesus also said to follow Him we must be willing to hate/give up the most important relationships in our lives. By Jesus’ own clear instructions, we are told we should not allow anything (riches) or anyone (parents, spouse, siblings, etc.) to stand between us and our relationship with Him.

Jesus wants our undivided, uncompromising focus and attention.

Does this mean Jesus wants to be a kill-joy in our lives? The answer is, No! Rather, Jesus declares that if we make our relationship with Him our priority, we will discover how to best enjoy the good things and the many relationships of this life.

During the past two weeks, we have being exploring the question, “Do Others Know the Real You?” If you missed the last two blogs, I suggest you read them because they explored the importance of first knowing yourself, and then fully accepting and embracing who you are. This week we will consider how to you let others know the real you.

Last week we ask, “Do others know the real you?” We talked about some signs of a person who is not showing others who they really are. We also laid out the first step in the process of letting others know who you are really, which is to know thy self.

Today we will explore the second step in the process, embracing the real you.

It is one thing to know thy self; it is quite another to embrace what you know about yourself. You really cannot effectively make yourself known to others if you have not embraced who you are.

The struggle to embrace the real you may have come from a number of different places.

Do others really know you? By that I mean, do they really know what you want; your likes and dislikes; your dreams, desires, wants, values, preferences and personal goals?

I have a feeling that for many, the truest of true self stays hidden from those closest to them.

Marriage and the workplace are the two most common areas where others tend not to know who you really are. In marriage you may be tempted to say you want the best for your spouse. The way you do that is to not let your spouse know who you really are, but only focus on your spouse’s needs. You tell yourself that if your spouse really gets to know you, it will make them sad or indifferent because some of your wants, desires and goals may differ from theirs.

Recently, as I coached a leader, we discussed how difficult life had been during the past year but was now on the upswing. I then asked her to reflect on what had made the past year so tough and why the present was different?

The leader is involved currently in something that is very new and exciting, and she is passionate about it. So I asked the question, “How much of a difference is your improved situation tied to your involvement in something that you’re passionate about and is new and exciting?” The leader was quick to point out that although this new and exciting thing did help, it was not as big a reason as one might think.

Without a doubt we live in a fast-paced, crazy-busy world today. The word casual is rarely used to describe life – except for how we dress. Occasionally, my wife will invite me to attend a work-related function with her, and I will ask how I should dress; the reply usually comes back, “casual.”

I often wonder where a phrase like this has gone: “Let’s go for a casual walk.” Now we go for power walks, trying to burn as many calories in as short a time as possible. Or what about having “a casual conversation,” rather than competing with each other to tell as much as we can about ourselves (or

Try as you might, you cannot avoid conflict in relationships. Relational conflict is a natural part of human existence. Therefore, you need to figure out how best to deal with it rather than avoid it.

When conflict exists in a relationship and all you do is seek to avoid it, you only allow it to worsen. The longer conflict is avoided or ignored, the more it festers or escalates.

When working as a manager at a call center, I recall having a conflict with a colleague. Rather than dealing with it immediately, I avoided it because I lacked the tools to manage it. The end result was that I distanced myself from my colleague and our relationship became rather awkward. Since then I’ve learned to deal with conflicts as soon as possible because I value relationships.

Let me suggest three biblical steps that will help you manage your conflicts rather than avoid them.