In the Church, but not of the Church

In John 17:16, Jesus said those who follow Him are not of the world as he is not of the world. Although we are in the world as His followers, we are not of this world in terms of the values and standards, as the world’s stand in contrast or opposition to the kingdom of God.

As a follower of Jesus living in the world, you should focus on living out and displaying the qualities of the One you are following, Jesus Christ.

We often are concerned, disappointed or discouraged when we see people in the church who are speaking and acting in ways that do not reflect what we know the Church as the Body of Christ is to be: Christ-centered, loving God and others.

Instead we see:

  • Destructive anger
  • Envy
  • Division
  • Fighting
  • Sexual, spiritual, psychological and sometimes even physical abuse
  • Abuse of power to manipulate and control those under our care
  • Bearing false witness or lying
  • Ego taking center stage
  • Unrestraint pursuit of sexual desires
  • Gossip
  • Slander
  • Arrogant and boastful

This is the way of those who are in the Church but not of the Church. This should not surprise us because Jesus did reveal that many will come to Him saying they did work in His name, and He will deny that He knows them (Matt. 7:21-23). Too many in the Church demonstrate by their actions that they are not truly of the Church.

On the other hand, those who are both in and of the Church demonstrate the following characteristics:

  • They love unconditionally. They love others regardless of race, color, gender, sexual orientation or beliefs because everyone has value and is loved by God. Those of the Church should put no stumbling block before anyone who is seeking or following Jesus.
  • They love their enemies. By no means is this easy, especially when your enemy has hurt you deeply. But in Matt. 5:44, it is what Jesus calls those who are of the Church to do.
  • They forgive and seek forgiveness. This is a hallmark of those who are of the Church. They do not withhold forgiveness because they know only too well that forgiveness is the basis on which they now have access to Jesus who is the head of the Church to which they belong. Because of their desire to not put a stumbling block before others, they seek forgiveness whenever they wrong someone, and they forgive those who wrong them.
  • They are not ego driven. Those who are of the Church know that it is never about them. They work hard, love abundantly and give generously all for the advancement of the Church – the Body of Christ. They don’t become the over-worked victim in search of an ego boost to seen as the ever present hard-working person.

Are you in the Church but not of the Church? If you were to ask those closest to you how they viewed you, in light of your example, what do you think their response would be?

Maybe you are currently in the midst of very difficult situation where you are tempted to act in ways that would reflect as one being in the church but not of the Church.

Make every effort to ensure that you are not only in the Church but you are also of the Church. Invite others to hold you accountable to help live and lead as one who is of the church.

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