Embracing the Real You

Emotionally healthy leaders are leaders who have embraced their real self and are comfortable with who they are in Christ. They know they have weaknesses; they have made mistakes and are not perfect. They are honest with themselves, they don’t live in denial of who they are.

It is one thing to know thyself; it is quite another to embrace what you know about yourself. You really cannot effectively make yourself known to others if you have not embraced who you are.

The struggle to embrace the real you may come from a number of different places.

  • Growing up in an abusive home
  • Always being compared with others
  • Having unrealistic expectations set for you while growing up
  • Always being reminded of the wrongs you did
  • Being put down by those closest to you: parents, siblings, family, etc.
  • Fear of rejection

Obviously, any number of other reason may have led you to not embrace the real you. You may still carry wounds of the past or you still may be trying to live up to someone else’s expectations. Before you can begin to let others know the real you, you must first accept and embrace the real you.

Perhaps you have regrets about some things, and to this day you live with the consequences. Maybe you have discovered that you are not as good or competent as you thought you were in some areas but are afraid to admit it. How should you go about embracing these things about yourself?

  • Recognize you cannot change the past. Therefore, continuing to revisit or relive past events, wishing they were different, serves no good purpose. The reality is, the past is what it is – the past.
  • Accept the past as a part of who you are, which cannot and will not change. Take responsibility for what you have control over, and deal with whatever consequences have followed. Beyond that, you are wasting present time and energy on something that will never change. While you are certainly influenced by the past, you need not be defined by the past.
  • Seek healing for the hurts of the past. Many of us carry hurts we experienced as children and that continue to hinder our present living. We need to seek out the necessary help to get the healing we need.
  • Recognize what you are good at, regardless of what the negative voices of the past or present are saying. See the good in you as God’s gift to you. Do not be afraid or ashamed to celebrate and live out God’s good gifts in you.

We all have strengths and weaknesses. We all have things about the past we wish were not a part of our life. Yet only those of us who fully embrace who we are now, are able to let others know who we really are.

To embrace who you are means to accept yourself without excuse, apology, or shame.

Have you truly embraced who you are or are you still struggling to let go of the past? Are you still trying to please others?

Identify one thing about the real you that you have been keeping buried and tell at least one person. See it as a small but important step toward embracing the real you.

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